It’s been going on for far to long… The Department of Children and families. It starts off with a simple knock at your door, you let them in because you are a nice person and you are being questioned, then it goes on and the social worker starts making you feel like a bad person, a bad parent. They are not there to give you the parent of the year award they are there for one thing and one thing only, TROUBLE. Granted there are people that should not be allowed to have children but they do not seem to pay attention to them. They get calls from schools, people you were once involved with, a nasty divorce, a nosy neighbor. Then it’s will you do this, or that, can you sign this and that to, then they start questioning your children, and then you have an investigation going.
Now an investigation can go one of two ways unsubstantiated or substantiated. That depends on how much poof they have and how you cooperate with DCF/CPS with unsubstantiated you are OK, but the process of it is long and is hurtful, they want to know everything about you and your children. If your parenting skills aren’t up to the standards they expect forget it. Then you have the substantiated…. it will ruin your life, you won’t be able to work in the health care field, and you will be under the thumb of DCF/CPS. These people do not care, it’s a job, and taking children away is what they do because it brings money.
There are a lot more people out there that have had their run in with DCF/CPS then you know, and I have yet to hear of one good out come. I keep asking for people to come forward and share what they have been through so other people don’t have to, and that this agnecy will start being help accountable for the things they do to families. There are people out there that will listen, there are many groups that are against DCF/CPS, but if people don’t come forward it will continue. Day after day I get emails about the horrible things they are doing, they need to be stopped, we have rights for a reason but they trample all over them as if they are immune to our constitutional rights. Lets put a stop to this, if they have made a visit once they will be sure to return, all it takes is a phone call so lets stick together and start fighting back with the rights we are given. The 4th and 14th amendments are ones they like to break, and you have the right to remain silent, the biggest mistake we all make is talking, like the police, they only ask because they don’t know. And we think simple conversation is harmless well they find a way to twist and turn every single word you say with the fake smiles and all.
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As Connecticut remains as the only State in the country who treats victims of domestic violence as per se “neglect”, DCF will not change. So, if you are a victim of DV, police arrest the offender, the police call DCF and as victim, you get into the “DCF” rabbits hole/Alice in Wonderland and enter into a new dimension — dealing with DCF is double victimization. It’s a scam funded by taxpayers who are powerless. The schools also support the choas as it also justifies Administrators (as top-heavy, over paid) work load and thus salaries.
The Juvenile Courts must be opened up to the public and for scrutiny — Judges do whatever DCF asks. You can’t get a transcript of even the AG lying to a Judge — as you need the judge to sign a motion to request even what the AG said to the Judge. The AG and DCF will lie to a court and the Court just looks the other way. As a victim of DV and with both a doctorate and a masters, I’m shocked how I was treated yet DCF let’s parents keep kids in filth with the Police on hold for 30 minutes (Torrington). I think DCF discriminates on zip codes (just my thought, no documentation to support same). But, I think that DCF kills a fly with a sledge hammer in affluent zip codes and in inner-cities, treats abuse cases as “business as usual” and not much happens — to make “numbers” look better that DCF removes children equally.
Best advise I ever received from my privately paid attorney with having to deal with Connecticut DCF: “Leave the State as soon as you can, DCF is out of control and do you want to be happy or right.” I thought legally I was entitled to both, but, once in the Rabbit’s hole, settled for happiness.
Lastly, the definition of “neglect” needs to be tightened as it is defined by DCF and the Court as too open when it really should be for the case like Torrington or in a case where the house is so filthy it can affect the health of any occupant.
That was great! I really wish more people would speak up as you did, please feel free to express yourself anytime, anyone with that much thought and bringing truth to light are the people we need! Thank you again we will be looking forward to more
The C.P.S. agency here in Hemet, Riverside County is so corrupt they are literally kidnapping children and getting paid big bonuses to adopt them out. I have so many friends right now dealing with their children being ripped from their homes on little more than an anonymous phone call from some disgruntled neighbor or vindictive family member. My own grandchildren 3 of them have all been adopted out and there were other family members willing to take the children two of them police officers and they found any reason they could to deny the requests. It is an outrage. Oh and the reason they were taken? my daughter was diagnosed bi-polar and had run out of medication and was refusing to answer numerous phone calls made by me to her and I was worried so I made the terrible mitake of asking officers to do a wellness check to her home. The next thing I knew I was getting a call from her that CPS just came to her home and took all three kids. I guess she answered the question “was she feeliing anxious and like she had no control” yes and that was all she wrote sister the police returned with CPS within the hour and that was the end 3 1/2 years later they are adopted out.I have many moore sories than that I could give you names and numbers of all kinds of families who have been victimized by CPS somebody needs to do something to stop this nightmare. They need to be revealed for the lying, law breaking kidnappers they are. (951)665-0605
Hello, I know I am probably replying in the wrong spot, I’m new to this site. It’s around midnight on a Sunday Night? early Monday morning. I really shouldn’t be up stressing, but the truth is I’ve spent the last 35 weeks up at night stressing about this matter and it’s becoming an obsession. My name is Nicole, I am currently expecting a healthy baby boy that is due on May 4th of this year. I am a recovering addict, and have been clean and sober since December 23rd, 2008. In July of 2006, I gave birth to my first son, I was using and was in an extremely abusive relationship. My son was taken from me right from the hospital. It was a long year and a half court battle with DCF. They would push my buttons, and made it virtually impossible for me to get my son back. They even made it impossible for my parents to intervene, whom were financially and physically capable of taking care of him while I got better. So instead of getting better, the trauma caused me to get worse. I was also being “brainwashed” by my abuser whom was many years older than me. I was completely messed up in the head and traumatized.
I am a totally different person now. I am in a loving relationship with my husband-to-be, sober and able to hold a job for the past year and a half. I’ve been keeping up with ever Pre Natal appointment. My obgyn knows of my past problem, but not the extent of it. He knows about the drug abuse, and that I “gave my rights up” to my first son.
Many people tell me that I have no reason to be afriad of DCF to “pop in” now because there is no neglect. I’m just afraid of when I give birth, and the Social worker on the Maternity Ward comes to interview my fiance and I, that they are going to mention past pregnancies/ children/etc, and hear that I had DCF involvement, and they will automatically call them.
I’ve been too afraid to ask my OBGYN that question, because I’m paraniod that they would think there would be a reason to call them if I’m so paranoid about this, that I actually HAVE something to hide.
I was so traumatized by this time in my life that I’m getting more and more nervous as my delivery date arrives. I know the stress isn’t good for my baby, and there are ALOT more things I have to worry about now too.
Can someone please put my mind at ease so I can prepare… Is there anyway that DCF can come knocking at my door just because I have previous DCF involvement? Should I be getting a lawyer just in case?
Dear Nicky,
I feel your pain and I have good news & bad news for you.
Bad news: Please know it is likely that they will show up at the hospital and try to steal your joy and maybe even threaten to steal your bundle of joy. Please do whatever you have to do to dissapate on the fear/paranoia.
Good news: Fear is the opposite of FAITH. Just like animals/predators sense fear, so will this agency.
You have sobriety and recovery on your side!! If you know the steps, you know that you have higher power (whom I choose to call Jesus Christ) and that is your source of strength. Try to vision angels protecting you all the time. You can bet that your angels will on guard in the hospital when you are holding or nursing your baby. Know that no weapon formed against you (your past) shall prosper. It is wise to have a attorney in your corner, for sure. By the way, please nurse your baby, if you can. This will create an extra strong bond and the agency will be aware of this too and that will throw a little monkey wrench at them, I can expand on this if you ask. Build your network and characters of reference. Start getting letters NOW and get yourself a folder, volunteer urine, blood whatever. Build your army girl. Most of all PRAY, and darkness has to go away!
How do I know all of this?? because it happened to me. I had a daughter taken away at birth because I was dirty. I worked SO HARD to get her back, she was in the adoption process, but I had a big connection: God. Both He and I worked diligently to get my daughter back!! During this process I gave birth to another baby girl and I proudly had over 2 years clean and developed a strong network of people from church, work, pregnacy health centers, counseling, parent support groups, meetings etc.
When I gave birth to last baby girl, “they” were there at the hospital, they put a black alarm moniter on her tiny ankle. It was a devastating sight, but I knew I was going to take my baby home. My angles were there. I remained humble, did not panic. Please Nicky do the same. Congradulations on your recovery and new baby. Keep your head up, smile and pray. God bless you!
Sinneh
Sinneh,
Thank you very much for your encouragement and honestly. I have a few more questions for you. Was DCF currently in your life when this happened with the birth of your 2nd daughter? (Is that the “last daughter” you were talking about?)
My son was in the adoption process to when I surrendered my rights. He had been in foster care for over a year, and had no connection to me whatsoever, even with the weekly visits I had. And I was getting worse, and I did make the very hard decision to surrender and let him stay with the family that he was with.
When they took my son away, they wouldn’t let my parents take him… there was no reason for that at the time. They are ridiculous. At the time, yes, they did have a right to take him away, but they made it impossible to get him back. But yet I’ve known of MANY people that never get Sober, live like pigs, DCF comes into their life and then for some reason the people get lucky and DCF dismisses the case and leave them alone. I don’t understand.
The past is the past… DCF should be judged by their “past”.. of workers being alcoholics, child molesters (which by the way is more recent than my involvement) And these are the people that judge whether WE’RE good parents????
Thank you for the advice. I will start working on the letters ASAP. And will retain an attorney just in case. This can’t happen again. They have no reason.
Sorry to ask you those personal questions. I kind of knew that they would come popping up. I even considered to get pre natal care in New York and deliver in New York so they couldn’t come barging in, but I’m sure they would find me there too… they find everybody, maybe we should send them to search for Osama Bin Laden instead of stalking people who have turned their life around.
Thank you again so much.
Im being falsely accused of abusing my child because there was a little mark under his eye when I dropped him off (well so the ex says) So shes been refusing my court ordered visitation for over 2 weeks now because someone from dcf said she dosent have to let me see them. This seems a little out of their zone to be telling my ex she dosent have to let me see my kids even when I have a court order. Wouldnt that fall under LEGAL ADVICE? Its funny though because when I specificaly told (Kim Jacewicz-Capel the social worker) that my ex is still under court order to let me see my kids she agrees with me. Hmmmm it seems like they are not all on the same page over at the CT dcf. So in other words im being denied my parental rights because a dcf worker told my ex she didnt have to let me see them. Hmmm I really feel like getting to the bottom of this one. On a side note…the whole time she was asking me questions I was irritated because I was being accused of something I didnt do first of all and secondly she absolutly seemed bias and condesending. This is what the tax dollars are being spent on. False allagations made by our exs that are left in the hands of these intruding parasites that have no clue what really goes on. I asked her if she thought it was emotional abuse by my ex when I told told my kids I love them and the ex says “no he dosent!” right in front of the kids. She honestly said “no”. Now because I was irritated to begin with about my ex holding my kids from me,then being falsely accused,then being bassicaly interigated by this woman, I felt a little hurt and gave her an “attitude” So I can expect she will at least recomend some sort of anger class. Het after all its for the kids right? Yea more like fuel for the corrupt dcf. What the heck why wouldnt be pissed? Im being accused of something I didnt do.
I personally started a facebook page for this very cause it is http://www.facebook.com/pages/People-Against-CT-Department-Of-Children-and-FamiliesDCF/123015667765049#!/pages/People-Against-CT-Department-Of-Children-and-FamiliesDCF/123015667765049 and it is called people against CT Department Of Children and Families(DCF). I was falsely accused when a crack whore ( I say this literally) asked me to let her stay in my home because she was homless but she refused to not use drugs or turn tricks I said no she called DCF they knew this woman as she was already in the system. They knew it was bogus but still made us jump through hoops to get my life back. She was never charged even though she blatantly stated in email she did this out of spite. I know my rights now and WILL NEVER let a DCF worker darken my doorstep again. I know I can make them leave unless they have a court order oh and even if they have a cop ask if they have a court order if not YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LET THEM IN!!!! This is a scare tactic they are using more and more. And you DO NOT have to let them speak to your kids alone unless it is COURT ORDERED. The key with them is court ordered. IF they don’t have it don’t let them have it.
My niece and nephew were removed from my sister’s care in Dec. of 2009 for neglect charges. Since the children were removed I have been trying to get them to me in upstate NY. DCF social worker supervisor Stephanie Browder told me that we would not be allowed into the court room for the commitment hearing in February or 2010. I later found that this was a lie and I did have the right to attend the hearing.
They also told me in Jan of 2010 that an ICPC would be issued, in Dec or 2009, and I would hear from my county when it arrived. After asking Ms. Browder about it several times and being told that it was in process I decided to track it down through the ICPC offices that the report was supposed to go through. It was not until I hired an attorney in March of 2010 that the report began moving through the system. I had to take CT to court twice for them to release our SCR (state central registry) requests. I also had a problem with the Hartford, CT ICPC office withholding the approved report. It ended up being held up in Hartford for over a month before I was able to get someone to release the report.
Now that my home is approved by NY standards CT is still refusing to place the children. DCF is claiming that they have concerns because I have four well cared for children. They are claiming that the children need more structure than I can provide. I am a homemaker with a husband who cares and makes enough money to support our family without any aide from anyone. DCF would also like to dig up a closed file from when I was in their care in order to try and find any mental illnesses or other dirt. I don’t have anything to hide but I would like to leave the past where it belongs, as I prefer to not revisit my entire childhood. They want to look into this because they can find no problems with me as an adult so they think they will find something by digging around in my childhood.
I have been to court in CT requesting for the placement of my niece and nephew because we had the approved ICPC that DCF requested. Unfortunately DCF requested a priority home study and did not request the full foster parent licensure that they later claimed was required by law. Keep in mind that NY asked CT what they required for us to get the children and the local worker never received an answer. So NY sent the approved priority home study that they requested. It became apparent that there was a law that prevented them from sending the children to us if they wanted. Though DCF could have sent the children to us because we are family and would have been licensed within 90 days. The judge decided that the children would not be placed with us until we have received the full foster parent license in NY.
On Nov 30th 2010 we were officially licensed foster parents in the state of NY. Norwich, CT received all of the documentation including a very positive foster home, home study from NY on by Dec. 10th of 2010. DCF wouldn’t move the children to our home, so we were required to request another court hearing. On Dec 23rd we had court we went to court again, asking for the children to be placed with us. Due to the extended period of time that the children have been in their current foster home their attorney now feels that it is in the children’s best interest to stay in the home they are in. This is due to over a year of DCF’s delay procedures. It is true that the children have now been in their current placement for 10 months and have likely developed some bonds to the foster parents, but the children have also developed concerning new behaviors such as hitting themselves in the head.
Over the last couple of months the foster mother has claimed that the children are sick shortly before a visit with us. We live 200 miles away and it takes 4 hours to drive to CT for a visit and have not received notice of the cancellations before we leave for CT for one of these visits. On a different occasion DCF completely stood us up for a visit. They did not call to confirm or to deny the visit, we went to the place to meet the children not knowing what was going on and it was not until the following day that the social worker said that the children were sick and not able to come.
We now have another court date on Jan 11th for a scheduling conference, so that we can hopefully get the judge who heard the previous trial to rehear the motion to transfer guardianship and the motion for out of state placement. We are rapidly approaching the year point in their current placement which gives the foster mother legal rights to the children. So what is to happen, will anyone stand up for our family? Will the judge next rule that it is no longer in the children’s best interest to be with their family?
The way DCF is handling this case is highly questionable and I feel they are not looking out for the best interest of these children.
Sincerely
Jazelle Avery
BACK IN 2001 I WENT THROUGH A TUFF TIME BECAUSE MY DAD HAD PASSED AWAY. I WAS ALSO PREGNANT AT THE TIME, BUT I DID EVERY THING THAT I COULD TO GET BETTER. I WAS WORKING WITH A GREAT DOCTOR AND MY MENTAL HEALTH STARTED TO IMPROVE. I MADE ONE TERRIBLE MISTAKE I TOLD MY OBGYN DOCTOR THAT I WAS DEALING WITH DEPRESSION AFTER THE DEATH OF MY FATHER, AND I TRUSTED HER BUT SHE TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO CALL DCF. AND THEY TOOK MY NEWBORN BABY AWAY FROM ME AND ADOPTED HIM OUT. I DONT KNOW WHERE MY SON IS TODAY. DCF MISTREATED ME, BROKE LAWS AND TRICKED ME JUST SO THEY COULD ADOPT OUT MY PRECIOSE BABY WHO I MISS SO MUCH. I HAVE BEEN FIGHTING DCF FOR MANY YEARS AND THIS COULD SADLY HAPPEN TO ANY ONE WHO LIVES IN THIS STATE. ITS TIME FOR THE PEOPLE TO STAND UP FOR OUR RIGHTS, STAND UP FOR ARE CHILDREN, AND TO STAND UP FOR OUR FREEDOM. IF WE DONT THIS SYSTEM THATS CALLED DCF WILL BECOME MORE AND MORE OUT OF CONTROL.
Did DCF talk to you prior to taking your baby? Did they give you a chance to get help and explain yourself???
We had a beautiful baby taken from us right from the hospital 2 days before Christmas. DCF is claiming “predictive neglect” based on our past history-none of which is recent past or violent /dangerouus in any way. The baby was returned under the agreement that he live with the paternal grandmother . I[mother] had to leave my home and future husband and go stay there with her and our baby. We had IFP involvement who are on our side, and complied with all of DCF demands. Now they are claiming the hair test came back pos for marijuana and came and removed our son from the grandmother’s home stating he is in danger of his surroundings! They took him out of the house without any coat/snowsuit/hat-NOTHING!! The cop said he was going into a warm car-like that makes it ok for a 1 1/2 month old baby???? That’s neglect if I ever saw it! PLEASE- can you help us get our baby back? We are good,honest,drug-free people who aren’t being given a chance to raise our son! Please Help! 203-302-8101-Southington,CT
Help! I had a DCF worker investigate a problem with my daugther.
The situation: I had my two daugthers overnight and my oldest got a bad diaper rash on her inner thighs. The mother of my children called a pediatrician who makes house calls. The pediatrician called DCF and said that my daugther had been burned. My childrens normal pediatrician saw my daugther and explained how she has a history of sensitive skin and how we have done everything to help her with her diaper rashes. Per DCF it has been found that the charge of physical neglect was substantiated and they have not told me if there was any hearing or how it was substantiated. I need some help to get this charge over turned and to get DCF off my back. Please help send any info to firejinn84@yahoo.com thank you.
Are you being given supervised visitation? If so you should know that DCF is trained Not to tell you what their looking for. You should know that when their pen is moving….its not good. They are instructed to write what you are doing wrong, not what you are doing right. And,as if being supervised with your own child isn’t stressful enough, they are constantly going to demean you in front of your child by giving you what they call “Parent Education”. Here is the best advise I can give you during your supervised visits.
1) Be On Time.
2) Don’t cancel visits without a note from your doctor or boss.
3) Bring your child’s favorite age appropriate games,toys and music. Dance and sing to your child.
4) Bring only Health snacks
5) Get down to your child’s level
6) And last of all do not engage in a conversation with the visit supervisor. They will pretend to be your friend. They will engage you and try to take your attention away from your child and then write down that you were more interested in the adult in the room than in your child. Tell this person that their “input is valuable but that if you don’t mind this is my time with my child” you can set up a time to meet afterwords if necessary.
We all parent differently but DCF expects a dog and pony show.
Although we will never satisfy them, don’t give them any more ammo to fire at you.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I hope this information leaves you more informed. Your not alone!
I have to somewhat disagree with the 1-5. Starting with NOT ANSWERING THE DOOR, and if you do, DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING!!! Any conversation you have with these people they will turn everything and everything you say into a bunch of lies. they are not trained to look for anything good. EVER. The only plan they have is to destroy families. The best advice I can give you, is not to speak with them. People call in all the time with bullshit, if it be a neighbor, a jealous friend, someone in the community that has claimed to see something through their messed up eyes, or a teacher or a social worker that feels superior by making a phone call to ruin someones life.
Yes if it comes to supervised visits yes be on your best behavior, but do not play to perfect they see beyond that… as if you are trying to be to perfect, along with that, do not change the way you interact with your child to please these vultures.
If you are the unfortunate one that has to deal with these PRICKS the most important thing you can do is EDUCATE yourself…. this site is full of it. And also spread the word that this site exists. Not enough people know that there are actual people that not only care, but have been through it.
THANK YOU JEANA for all of your input, I am hopeful it will encourage others to open up. All and any information is helpful. You never know something so simple could help save a family from being destroyed by this disgusting agency that gets off by taking children, the younger the child the more they want them, because they make more money by removing them.
PLEASE PLEASE, READ ABOUT YOUR RIGHTS. THEY THINK THEY ARE ABOVE THE LAW. They are not. The best way to protect your family is to know. So take the time and read. You never know when they come and knock on your door. Prepare yourself.
We live in Vermont but this seems to be a nation wide epidemic. United we stand, divided we fall. A lawyer told me that Dateline wouldn’t have any interest in our accusations against DCF, but they might listen if we all send them our stories.
Dear Dateline NBC,
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Please check out this link and research the web for thousands of similarly true stories about how our US Government is selling our children for financial gain.
My husband and I went to court in early December for a TPR (Termination of Parental Rights Hearing). Our lawyer told us that the she didn’t recommend that my husband’s court ordered counselors be called in for testimony because she “thought it it would more likely hurt our case than help it”. We ended up having only one whiteness besides myself to testify on my husbands behalf. This was the visit supervisor who supervised us with my stepdaughter for 8 months. She testified that we were “above average parents” and that she ” never saw any inappropriate behavior”. Her work with my family was strictly voluntary, and she was not on anyone’s payroll; yet the judge took the testimony of a “professional” who spent 15 minutes with my husband, and was contracted by DCF to state on the stand that my husband “Shouldn’t be around children”,
On the second day of a grueling trial where they dissected a good man and turned him into a “risk factor” with testimony by DCF’s paid associates, our lawyer said to us “Oh we aren’t going to win this….I thought you knew that”. She has apparently never one a case, but has mastered losing (over 400 cases). She is paid to lose! Because we are low income, we were assigned this Public Pretender at a sliding scale rate. Our lawyer works for the State. DCF works for the state, The Judge works for the state of VT, The Lund Center who supervised our visit is the adoption center for DCF, the Lund center who supervised visits works under contract with DCF and so do all of the Evaluators that they sent my husband to. Its the state against us…………the poor, powerless people who make up America who are being robbed legally of our children.
The foster mother once said that she might allow my husband to see his daughter if he “dropped the conspiracy theory”. If this isn’t a conspiracy then I don’t know what is. My step daughter was promised to this adoptive family at birth and they had no intention of allowing us to bring her home to her father where she belongs. They forces my husband through two years of counseling and psychological evaluations solely for the purpose of dragging this case out as long as possible. You see, once a child is in custody for 15 out of the most recent 22 months, they can then move toward freeing a child for adoption. These evaluations proved no more than the fact that Yes, mu husband was angry at DCF, and of course he was saddened by this experience, but what they were really doing was stalling so they could state their case that the child was loved and adjusted in her foster home and that it would now be traumatic to move her. Its all a big scam!!!
On February 14th, 2011 Our lawyer emailed us to let us know that the judge ordered Termination of my husbands parental rights! There is an appeal process but again our lawyer told us that no judge would overturn another judges decision, discouraging us from trying. We are exhausted and defeated by a system which is supposed to support families and protect the children who need to be protected.
I’ve seen Dateline do several stories about injustices to children. Our own government is STEALING CHILDREN!!! We need help, we need awareness, and we need it now!
The last time I wrote, my letter lacked response from Dateline. Please help America’s families, by exposing our corrupted government from selling our children. I beg you.
Hopelessly,
Jeana and Jeff Conroy
127 Plattsburg Ave #14
Burlington, VT 05408
(802)489-5507
—–Original Message—–
From: jmcsagittarius
To: Dateline
Sent: Fri, May 28, 2010 11:26 pm
Subject: LEGALIZED CHILD ABDUCTION IN VERMONT
The state of Vermont has a corrupted legal system in place for customized for legalized child abduction.
About 6 weeks after my husband and I met in Feb of 2009, his ex came forward claiming to be pregnant. She is has a history of drug use and lost the baby at birth to the Department for Children and Families.. DCF took 4 months to prove my husbands paternity though he made himself known to DCF as the baby’s possible father prior to her birth. The baby was promised an adoptive foster family and is still in custody now at 18 months old. Now the case is moving to the Termination of Parental Rights despite our exhausting attempts to bring her home to her dad and I and my two children. There is absolutely NO Reason that this child should not have been placed with us at the very moment her mother gave up the Fight.
This is LEGALIZED CHILD ABDUCTION! Here are some of the examples of violations DCF has made to my husband and his daughter’s basic human right to be treated with respect and dignity.
v DCF has NOT been working toward reunification. From the beginning they have promised my step- daughter to the foster family.
v DCF has restricted home visits to the downstairs only in my home, stating that I was “Not to get to comfortable” “She’s not yours yet”
v Burlington DCF told my husband that he was responsible for his daughter having had 14 ear infections within a period of 9 months because he “knowingly impregnated a known drug addict”.
v DCF has stipulated that my husband is not to refer to myself as “daddy” to his baby girl because it confuses her; she apparently calls her Foster Father “Daddy”.
v DCF has stated to me that my husband is nothing more than a playmate to his daughter and that when she see’s us that she is more interested in the room that we visit in, her toys or our pets than she is in my husband.
v DCF refuses to keep my husband informed of his daughter’s doctor’s appointments as ordered by the court.
v DCF has restricted us from having all of the home visits ordered by the court. On 8 different occasions DCF has demanded that if I wanted to see my daughter on that I would have to go to DCF to see her.
v DCF threatened me that if I did not “Bond with my daughter with in 15 minutes of our visit that they would take her and leave”.
v DCF staff repeatedly defame my character to my health care providers, Easter Seals, DCF Contracted workers, the foster parents, my daughter’s doctors and the courts by feeding them lies with the intent to assassinate my husband’s character.
v DCF staff has an overall demeaning tone with my husband; she raised her voice and belittles him in an attempt to provoke anger. She thinks that she can push this very gentile man to a breaking point so that she can claim that he has anger management issues and then claim that he is a danger to his child.
v The only thing that DCF has to hold against us is the amount of time which has passed, allowing his daughter to bond with the foster family. DCF has intentionally dragged this case out knowing that time was on their side and not on ours. I think we should all get together and file a class action suite against the state of Vermont. Maybe Dateline NBC would like to lead the way in this investigation.
THERE ARE OTHER STORIES POSTED ONLINE. WE THINK THAT VERMONT IS LONG OVERDUE FOR A DATELINE INVESTIGATION!
Clearly it is not only in Ct where these problems are occurring. It is beyond disturbing… so many people have been victimized by this agency. I have said it over and over.. in order for us to make a difference we have to increase the number of people who will share their stories, as hard as it is it will only help to put and end or at least awaken the people in these agencies. I have no idea how these people sleep at night doing what they do to families.
I could go on and on, but the only thing that matters are people coming forward. Share your stories. This site was built for more than just to share, it’s to get numbers and facts. A few stories here and there, it’s the truth the hurt and the outcome. These people do not care, it is all about money. Destroying families without actual fact is bullshit. So many people are not aware of the rights they have. This site is full of all sorts of information… starting with your rights!!!! and that is the one thing they plow through. They think they are above the law.
My true hope is that more people will share stories… in time we will go public, all the wrong they did the hurt can never be mended, but as a whole we can prevent further devastation of others. PLEASE…… share telll, stand up for yourself and the children that will soon be facing the nightmare of ct dcf and other states.
I find your story heartbreaking, and there are so many other people out there outside of Ct that are being abused by DCF CPS… whatever the hell they call themselves.
My point is.. is coming forward! Just when you think that you have lost the battle you stumble upon a site that cares, that will listen and do whatever we can to help.
Being a victim of this agency that “just want’s to help” comes in like a tornado, sign this and sign that, and the reality is is they are taking your rights away and getting into ever nook into your life. By far are anyone of us are perfect, but perfect and unfit are two different things.
I cannot say this enough…. PLEASE share your story, we cannot fight these people alone, we have to stand up to these people, this agency at any expense. As a parent there is no price tag I could possibly put on my child, but you bet DCF CT DCF CPS sure can.The younger the better to them, the more money they make. Sadly, it comes down to money. The one and only way that a change is possible if enough people have become fed up and post your story.
The best advice I can give to anyone you have the right to ask for the report that CT DCF CPS… YOU HAVE TO FIND WHO TO SEND THE REQUEST TO THE REPORT THEY HAVE AGAINST YOU, AND BY LAW YOU ARE TO GET THE REPORT IN THIRTY DAYS. After reading the things that they wrote is VERY disturbing, the lies the twist in words the lack of care and how much they don’t care. The younger the child the more difficult they will make things. This agency is nothing but trouble, educate yourself, protect yourself!!! there is so much information on this site. And we do care, If there is anything I may be able to help you with please let me know… and respond to the comments that are left, the one thing we all have in common is the war this agency has started and sadly won. And the only thing left is a ruined family and an emptiness.
I plan on doing everything I can to strengthen this community on corruptct so we can all help each other. And with enough people complain about the wrong….. WE WILL BRING THIS INFORMATION to the media. And will be contacting the ombudsmen office. PLEASE GET THE REPORTS THAT THEY HAVE WRITTEN AGAINST YOUR FAMILY. You will be amazed the bullshit they put in it. They aren’t going to expect you to ask for it, but when you do…. they know there is something behind it. And it is your RIGHT to know the shady shit they write. Good luck, and please, spread the word, the only way we can grow by letting people know we exist, and we are fighting for everyone. And the helpless children going to bed in another home and you are not able to kiss your child goodnight.
Thank You for contacting me CCT. I have gained a renewed strength to keep fighting this corrupted DCF System. We all need to stick together because as we all know there is strength in numbers. Be an advocate to others, be a shoulder to cry on, give hope where hope may be lost and most of all refer them to this web site so that they too can tell their stories. I know that there are foster parents and other community service providers who know of this corruption……..So you need to tell your stories too! You will do no justice by keeping this information to your self. We can’t make a difference if we don’t speak out. I know your scared, we all are, but if you do nothing then you are essentially preventing the solution. Join the team and fight for your families!
That’s what we are here for… we will try to help whoever we can. My hope is that people will start leaving more comments on this page so we can help each other. I cannot thank the people who have shared the heartbreak, it is far from easy, but your story will help others. This site is not just for CT DCF, it is going on in every state.
Please spread the word that we are here, and please take advantage of the information that is on this site, such as your rights, the do’s and dont’s and when CT DCF is going or has gone to far.
As frustrating as this is to work against DCF’s resistance,”kill them with kindness”. Don’t let them know how much they get under your skin. DCF will use any indication of frustration against you. They will claim that you have “Anger Management Issues” and convince the court to order anger management counseling. I’m not a lawyer, I’ve lived it. My husband told a DCF worker that she was doing bad things and that he believed in Karma. She testified in court that my husband threatened her (with Karma) and the judge ordered Anger Management.
Hang in there, keep posting your progress and we’ll do what we can to help.
I have been advocating for my family for the past two years to no avail. DCF doesn’t like to be challenged,they want control and they want us to bow to their commands. Their tactic is to break your spirit by demeaning and dissecting you until there’s nothing left to fight with.
Our State DCF Agencies are preying on the poor. We’re then given representation who also happens to work for the state who Act as if they’re was working for us, when in actuality, the state lawyers in Child custody cases are paid to lose. This is what we’re up against. My husband never even had custody of his daughter, He never abused or neglected her. Her mother lost custody at birth and then DCF spent the next two years trying to dig up dirt on my husband until finally they just said that they were terminating my husbands parental rights because to much time has gone by and that the child was already apart of a family and that it would now be traumatic to move her. This is cheating! It’s a system that is a created for family destruction not family reunification. If we couldn’t win this TPR case than I worry they can’t be won. In fact its the only “game” I’ve ever played where the opponent doesn’t have to follow the rules. We are in the process of filing an appeal but we are discouraged not to drag this on any longer as we won’t win unless we can prove that the ruling judge “broke the law”. It was DCF who broke the law the Judge just turned a blind eye to it! How do we get our day in court when the whole system (judges included) are on the side of corruption?
DCF helped at first in getting my grandparents custody of me and my brother. But then DCF has over done it in saying I can not hang out with certain friends I have because of multiple reasons. They said it was because it was for my protection when they are not trouble makers and they don’t do the things they say they might or will do. DCF has pulled me away from my family and friends that cant be near me for the most ridiculous reasons. They also said if i hang out with them they will put me in a foster home 3 states away from where i live right now. DCF didn’t help my life it just tore it apart.
I was in a mentally Abusive Relationship with my Now 7 year old son’s Dad from 2003 to November 2005…He let his Elderly Grand Mother hit me, He starved me, refused to Let me leave him, So when We broke up in October of 2005…He found a new Girl Friend in Mesquite, Nevada…She didn’t like me Bossing her kids around, so He got money for a Greyhound Bus Ticket, and sent me home…Since, I have been home, I have been bullied By a younger Sister Who knows, I left my child willingly…I did not, and Now DFCS in California blamed me for leaving my Son, He’s currently in Foster care in California, and they have Taken away my Parental Rights Claiming That I am too Mentally Ill to care for him properly…Things got so Bad with family, I had to Go to a Shelter just to Get help, But now I have My own Apartment…Still Fighting the Stupid Government for medicaide so I can get a different Psyche Doctor and Therapists and Treatment for my Cerebral Palsy…But, I just want to add i’m Hanging in there….The Government gave me SSI, and I plan to Fight to get My own Payeeship somehow, and when I do i’m starting up My own Christian based Company to help parents like us All over the World regain their Freedom from the Monster’s who Dare still our Children…God bless….Add me on Facebook…I’ll give my name to Anybody with A Facebook Account…
After you’ve shared your story here, don’t log off just yet. Although it’s therapeutic to tell your story to others who can relate to the Destruction of children and family’s unethical practices; it’s even more important that you write to your Senators and Congressmen. You can email them directly by goggling something like “Email my Congressmen”. The more of us who tell our stories, the more likely they are to believe them. Maybe we aren’t too late to save our families. There is power in numbers and we need to build an army to fight for our rights to be treated with dignity, respect, truth and justice. If you really want to make a difference Write, and don’t stop writing until we are heard. If you want help finding your political advocate, let me know and I’ll do my best to help. Also if you want to share your letters, please do. I think it would inspire us all to know what kinds of messages are being sent.
If you look on our site we have all the information you need to contact the proper people….You also have the right to contact your DCF “worker” and ask who it is you need to write to to get your file sent to you. You will be amazed what they write. And it has to be given within 30 days. I would sit down while reading it, because it lies, lies ,lies
I want to know how many of these children are taken from parents who fall under the poverty guidelines and the lower middle class. I’d like to know how many children who were taken were infants and how many of those infants actually ever go home to one parent or the other. From my research, it seems that each state in the US is legally trafficking children. They are stealing them from the poor and selling them. DCF is paying other people to raise our children. DCF is an adoption agency not a family reunification agency. I wonder how many foster and/or adoptive families would be interested in taking our children if they weren’t paid a monthly stipend for up to 18 years to do so? DCF in Vermont hasn’t updated this information on their web page since 2007! Which in itself seems a little fishy.
it seems to be what CT DCF is after…. the people who cannot afford an attorney and they ARE AFTER BABIES. They promise to reunite! BULL-SHIT They profit off of the adoption. It is sad. I continue to say this and so does EVERYONE ELSE that comments on this site, DO NOT LET CT DCF IN YOUR HOUSE, DO NOT SPEAK TO THEM, IF THEY DO NOT HAVE A WARRANT THEN YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SPEAK TO THEM. It saddens me to know that the information that is out there that no one is reading it. The people that comment here are people who have been through it, ct dcf looks for nothing good. If you are looking for a friend to talk to talk to the wall… you are better off. Yea they come in acting all sweet and want to help, but it’s a ploy to take your children, esp, babies.
Ok, I keep hearing “Don’t let them in” but whether you do or not DCF will forge a plot against you. In other words If DCF has taken your child and you refuse to speak to them or allow them in your home, DCF will say that you’re not being cooperative and therefore are not working in the best interest of your child. If you do try to cooperate they will try to provoke anger from you with every contact by twisting your every word and lying (even in court) and then they’ll state that you are angry and therefore “not working in the best interest of your child”. DCF will then feed this line to the court and then the court orders anger management therapy. Therapy takes a very long time (even if you don’t need it) And this is how DCF can buy all the time they need to make a case that the foster family is now your child’s “emotional” family and that it would now be detrimental to the child’s emotional development to move her. Does this sound familiar to anyone? I bet it does because it’s a very calculated scheme to work the court system. In our case my stepdaughter never lived with us so they weren’t “investigating a charge” never the less, without us knowing it, we were being investigated. You see you don’t have to be guilty to be in a situation where you are fighting DCF as you are automatically guilty, until proven innocent. Remember they can’t sell your children if they can’t find anything wrong with you. There’s just no money in it. They make me physically sick.
The “don’t let them in” Is when they FIRST come to your door. Of course once they have your child you have to cooperate with what you have signed, and once you sign anything you agree to, and if you do not then of course expect problems. This site has more than just comments, it is full of all sorts of information, help, what to do, where to go for help. But this site was built to PREVENT the biggest mistake, by letting them in. I have said it so many times, unless they have a warrant, which they can’t only the police can, then DO NOT LET THEM IN.
Once you do that’s when they play all nice and sweet… and as they are writing the report on the case, they throw in the lies.
Please.. to anyone who would like to prevent losing your child, children and destruction of your family, PLEASE read what information this site holds. I help people as much as I can, I have dedicated my life to this site, the only thing it costs is my time. But it is worth it because there is an epidemic with CT DCF CPS whatever you want to call them…. they are taking children, the younger the better, the more adoptable they are. Please just educate yourself, most everything you could need is in this site, including numbers to much higher than a DCF “worker” the only thing they work on is destroying families they target the less fortunate… but if you are wise, they will go no where, that is if you are truly innocent.
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If you are in a situation with DCF and they have taken your children when you are sure that they crossed the line, or had no right, when you followed all of their requests and are in need of legal advice, please go to our facebook page corruptct.com and we will be able to possibly help, if you have a true case of ct dcf being in the wrong
The Department of solcial services placed my two brothers and I into an abusive home they aloowed them to adopt us and gave them two more sets of three with disibilitys. we didnt attend school, we worked from sun up till sun down, the girls were molested by these peoples biological son I personally was and had to write 5000 times i will not lie at 7 also the hot wire fence post was what the mom would use on me she told people we were bad , stupid, sexual devients, and mean while continued to beet us and The Department of Children and families let her be a foster parent she and her husband hit an attistic child across the room and starved a child with fetal achole syndrom i oppologize for my spelling. cops and cps were called but they belived these people over the 9 adopted children and 2 foster children get real cps is a freaken joke. oh and they allowed these people to take gardinship of my brothers child, move 9 hours away and refused to tell the baby who my brother was lie had cops called on my brother when he tried to visit then told cps he never showed up meanwhile cps placed an infant with these people ammazibly stupid orgnazation.
Also watch out for them to ask you one set of questions and your spouce another then try and state that you both answered differently. They will say people have accused you of doing drugs being a drunk, they will twist what ever words you say and don’t think the kids are safe either there trained to intercept there words and use other discriptions in the place of what your child actually said. They act big and baad but the law states a court order so no matter what they threaten with out another person present do not talk with them alone.
Ok I have a closed case in oregon but my children have been adopted out I signed my rights away I was on birth control abd everything and got pregnant I want to move to washington can the state take my baby away if i move
I had DCF in my life in the past due to pregnancies. I had a problem with drug abuse with my second child, and because they stepped in due to my drug abuse they went to my parents house and took my first child from them even though I had given them temporary custody until I got help with the drug abuse, even though I got help and I’m a recovering addict who has still remained sober, when DCF took my children the pain and trauma from them made me worse, after that it took a few years to get my life back from what they did to me, I was in an abusive relationship when I got pregnant with my third child, I relapsed a little bit but got help and was sober and at my delivery of my third child they took her from the hospital ,there the nightmare started over again. I just had my fourth child I’m sober but a car accident left me with seizures and now I cant get a job everytime I put in an application and tell them I have seizures they deny me the job, and well DCF is steping into my life again and now I get to have this nightmare all over again even though my child and I were clean, I need help to fight these people. If you’ve been done wrong please contact me to help me if you’ve been done wrong. My phone number is (850)994-1913.
In Vermont there’s a Doctor who does Parent Child Assessments.Its important to have a professional viewpoint in court regarding whether or not a parent with a disability is capable of raising their child. This doctor has to be recommend by the court so you should ask your lawyer to refer you for a similar assessment. Keep in mind that its a bit of a risk to have such an assessment because this doctor could say that you aren’t capable. Even though there are laws against discrimination, DCF will use your health issue against you if you don’t stay one step ahead of them with a professional witness.
I love this blog site layout . How was it made? It is so good.
Thank you…. keep posting, the more info the better we can get cps/dcf to stop stealing children for profit by LYING
It sounds like everyone here need to move to Tennessee. CPS WAS called on my ex for abuse and they were at my house 2 days after they got the call. Every week I would try to get in touch with the CPS worker to see how it went with my ex and his parents when she went to talk to them but I never would get a call back from her. finally I had to ask her supervisor to have her call me or come and see me so she finally did. It had been about 5 weeks since the initial report and When I ask her what they said because things were actually getting worse instead of better she said “well …..lets just say they wont return my phone calls” I said “so you mean you havent even talked to them yet”? She said NO but after these last complaints she would get with her supervisor and see what theey could do and she would call me back in about an hour. Again I didnt hear back from her for another 2 weeks so I called her supervisor again and she put her on the phone and to my suprise she had CLOSED MY SON’S CASE! I said nothing was ever even done or said to them and she said yea, that is why she closed it due to “NON COOPERATION ON THEIR PART!!! Needless to say my son is still having to go there every weekend and apparently they can do whatever they want. Where I live in Tennessee all you have to do if they call or come by is not answer the phone or door and dont return their phone calls and they will just close the case! I really hate all the bad situations on here and I wish all of you luck, I think it must be alot of where you live as to how involved they get. Good luck to all!!!
hello
dcf took my 2 day old child from the hospital
they were there 4 hours after she was born
the report has not much on us but our past from when we we kids in 96
now can my parents mess ups be held agenst me?????
alsois it leagal to send my fprmer dcf worker from my childhood to my house??/??
I would absolutely call this a conflict of interest. This person already has a preconceived impression of you and is most likely judging you on your parents, upbringing and economic status. DCF wants babies. They’re is a market for them. You need to write a letter to the DCF commissioner and explain why its a conflict for you to work with your childhood DCF worker. I actually met someone in a similar situation and she said that when the DCF worker met her as an adult she said “So are you the same sneak and lair you were when you were 15?”.How biased is that!! You are already behind in the race if you are starting off with a worker who has a negative preconceived opinion of you. She will use this information against you. Advocate for yourself. Write letters, make phone calls and get rid of that DCF worker.
what do you dcf is in the market for babies?
what do they want them for?
just wondering?
money! Adoption. Is very expensive. They do it for the almighty. Dollar
This weblog appears to recieve a good ammount of visitors. How do you advertise it? It offers a nice individual twist on things. I guess having something useful or substantial to talk about is the most important factor.
The US Government will pay each state up to $8000 for each adoption placement. Older children are harder to adopt out than babies. Everyone who wants to adopt really wants a baby. The Government started this incentive in order to avoid children from being moved from foster home to foster home but each state has discovered that their is a huge financial gain for each individual State, therefore have taken advantage of the the opportunity to traffic children for financial gain. There is proof that this money has been used to balance state budgets and doesn’t even go back into family welfare. This scam is tearing our families apart.
Thats Great!!! See it is things like this… people need to write, we need to get together and let themknow we have had ENOUGH. If you wish to help please post and we can establish first steps into taking our children and our rights back!!!
DCf became involved in my life after my ex mother called and made false allegations about me. I have been the primary parent for my child and i had informed DCF of my ex abuse of me and and our child i told them that he did substance abuse and that they should really look into him. I was told that i was doing he said she said. But they investigated me they told me what i could and could not buy food wise that i need to get a gym membership that my obesity was a problem for my child even though my child was healthy. I did everything they asked of me. My daughters father was told to get counseling but he refused. My exs mother called dcf so many times about me that they had to warn her that dcf would have to file charges if she didnt stop. A week later my ex and his mother said i had held my child done and had a friend rape her. And would not return my daughter to me. Dcf and the police took my statement the police took my cellphone my computer with camera and my itouch. My ex brought her to see me after keeping her for two weeks and said if i gave him money i could have my daughter sleep over so i gave him money he told me not to tell anyone i had my daughter after he left i called my mom to come get me and i left to stay with my mom for fear he would be back to take her. I took her to a say interview i asked them to promise me larry would not be there because im in fear of him because of the messages and threats him made the case worker promised me he wouldnt be there well he was there and they took my daughter from me. I was told i would not be allowed to contact my daughter untill the investigation was over that was three weeks ago. I went to court to try to get custody of my daugther i found out at court that they had taken lily away from her father and given to his mother because of his substance abuse problem. They never told me anything the case work told me that my daughter was happier and healthier without me my lawyer called her and asked her if she said this she denied it. So its been over two months that i have seen my daugther because of this investigation ive complied given them my apartment keys all my electronics my email passwords. The DCF agent said i was not being compliant because i got a lawyer. She asked me are you a suspect i said no i just want my daughter back i havent spoken or see her in two months her reply was your a bad mother why would we let you speak to her. So thats where i am now waiting for DCF to end their investigation missing my child!!!
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this. We went through this with my step daughter. My husbands ex made allegations against my husband and they ran him through the mill for 2 1/2 years based on the lies of a drug addicted woman with a very shady past. We lost the TPR even though we don’t have criminal or abuse history and I have a 9year and 16year old that I’ve never had state involvement with. Other people’s word can hurt you and your child. My advise is to document EVERYTHING! Every phone call, every snooty remark and every canceled visit. Don’t cancel any appointments, return all phone calls, and most of all DON’T GIVE UP on your child. They want to intimidate you to the point where you’ll give up. Don’t. I have to say that you have a much better advantage than my husband did just because you are her biological mother.Its your job as her mother to advocate for your child. Make sure that your conversations always are about whats best for her (not you),especially when speaking in court. Dress nice and be presentable and professional at all cost. Believe me you will have to bite your tongue and swallow most of your pride and it won’t be easy. Remind yourself that your doing this for your child and that you WON’T give up on her. I do wish you the best and my prayers are with you. I hope I could be of some support during this desperate time.
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Well to update they deny me my supervised visits both my ex attorney and Dcf staying its not there job to have supervised visit even though its there safety plan. My ex is not suppose to be alone with her by their own saftey plan but he is only with her! Dcf just called to tell me that the are supporting the calls even though they dont have solid proof i did something the case worker said i was neglectful and that they were supporting the allegations because of what my ex and daughter have said. The investigation is over both for the police and dcf the police have no evidence but dcf told me that my lawyer was uneducated and that i should be worried. I told the case worker that they other work told me that i was a bad mother and that my daughter was happier without me she said she didnt believe that happened and i told her well its funny you say that you dont think it happened because i had her on speaker phone and i have a witness she told me i was being hostile i told her that i wasnt that i just didnt like to be lied to. Asked her what the next step was she said she didnt think the da was going to press charges but he may i told her i would speak to my attorney and she hung up on me. So thats where i am!
Do you have access to email? If you do email your lawyer and DCF when ever possible. This way you will have a paper trail of your conversations. DCF hates to use email for this reason. They like to threaten a persons life by taking away their children and then back them in a corner to wait for a reaction. I told you this was going challenge every fiber of your being. They want you to give up. You must be honest and respectful at all times or they will say you have anger problems and use that as their whole defense. Also having a witness is recommended when ever possible. How old is your daughter? Do you have a GAL who will speak on behalf of the child? If so get on their side. What they say carries a lot of weight in court. Get out your notebook or computer and document. I can’t stress it enough.
My daughter is four and i dont know what a GAL is i should ask my lawyer i have no clue. ill update when i know.
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G.A.L is the acronym for Guardian at litem. This person is a volunteer who’s job is to be the child’s voice.They work for the child Not DCF. If you haven’t been assigned one to your case then you should ask why. This is your child’s right, and an opportunity to get someone on your side. The fact that you are seeking the help of others tells me that you are motivated and serious about bringing your daughter home.
I would do anything to protect my child. I had a chance to get custody of her but was advised if i did that dcf would file for my child to be put into foster care i couldn’t do that to her. I would rather her be with family even if they aren’t what i want her to be with. Yesterday her father called and let me speak to i was advised to record our conversations which i did and he said if i wanted to see him he would let me see her for my medication i have him on tape saying that i could come see her and spend the night with her if i got him a refill on my meds. I called his father because he is the guardian for my daughter till the investigation is over he didnt even know that he let me take to her. Even though i have a court order to have supervised visits the dcf case worker advised him not to let me talk or see her. Going against the order. im still waiting to see if my daughter has a GAL and if we can get one if she doesnt its the weekend so i doubt anything will be done till monday.
Abby, Knowledge is power. You don’t have to fight this alone. We are parents just like you have been wronged in the same way by DCF. Just know that DCF has a hidden addenda. Their trying to meet a quota by adopting out our children for financial gain to your state. For them isn’t personal its profitable; For you its personal and painful. They will keep hitting you while you’re down but you have to keep getting up. I would say that if you have the opportunity to have your daughter back. Take her! DCF Has to place a child with family when ever possible so if you loose her then she won’t be any worse off than she is now (with family) It almost seems to me that they don’t have enough information to Terminate your Parental rights or they wouldn’t have offered her back.
As for the Medication situation, it sounds like narcotics, right? DCF will want you to be tested so don’t have anymore or any less in your system than the doctor has prescribed. Also, if you smoke marijuana, stop now. It takes up to 60 days to get it out of your system and that won’t look good on your parental resume. I’m sorry I’m going off on a tangent…I just want you to know what to expect going forward.
DCF/DSS/whatever they want to be called need to be investigated ASAP and abolished or at least modified and put under new management that do not have their heads up their asses. Yes, at times they do the right thing but a majority of the time they do not. They are too obsessed with trying to take children away and protect them, they often make things even worse and screw up children’s lives especially when they are with non abusive and non neglectful parents. They also have this screwed up mentality that young parent’s who were in their care as children cannot take care of their own and that parent’s who have gone through VERY messy divorces and break up’s cannot take care their children and they feel they must intervene when in reality they should keep their over paid noses out of the families business. I was a DSS child in the state of Massachusetts and in Connecticut and all of the foster homes (about 9 of them) minus one treated myself and my younger brother ( we were only in two foster homes together) poorly. DCF may think they have the child’s best interest at heart but they are so screwed up and corrupt that they ignore the child when they speak up and tell them that they are being abused and their parent never abused them. I think it’s messed up how they can remove a child from a good yet messed up home even tho they are not being neglected whatsoever and put them in an environment where they are being beaten, molested, and ignored. Connecticut and Massachusetts DCF/DSS is CORRUPT. They have put myself, my brother, and my child through so much pain and bullshit that our lives will be forever changed because of them. I would get into what they have done to me and my daughter at another date but honestly, I for one HATE DCF with all my heart. DCF did nothing but screw my life up as a child and as a young adult.
I agree!!! That is why this site is here, to let the issues be known that CT DCF CPS is nothing but a money hungry, family destroying, lying, full of shit, and the PUBLIC DEFENDERS, BETTER YET PUBLIC PRETENDERS, are all in the same sick pool of filth. Thank you to everyone who keeps visiting, commenting on our site. We are here to help. And we have, just ask…. we do not have all the answers but can point you in the right direction.
Jeana…. I want to thank you for sharing your horrific story. It is so sad, wrong and you just keep hanging in there, doing what you need to for this baby. i commend you for your strength and effort, but most importantly you have not given up.
Your comments on this site has been so helpful for others to share the nightmare that CT DCF VT DCF CPS whatever the hell they want to call themselves. They are clearly nothing but trouble. Child thieves. Home wreckers, and they NEED to be stopped. Without people speaking up it will never happen if people don’t tell the hell this money hungry agency, that profits off of taking children away. CT DCF VT DCF sick sick people. THEY NEED TO BE EVALUATED!!!
It is a very sick and twisted “game” they seem to play. The fact that they “just want to help” is bullshit. Families go through rough times, that does not mean DCF needs to get involved and make the situation even worse. Sadly they enter the lives of people who are not educated about the right’s they have. You do not have to let them in, unless they have a warrant that is. That is the first mistake parents make, they let them in sign papers for them to pull school records, dental, doctor etc. Then these “social workers” or “investigators” come in and the next thing you know you are standing in front of a judge, fighting for your parental right’s.
They are most certainly are WAY over paid, and undereducated. They communicate… well they do not with the family, they seem to just do whatever they want. It is truly sick, how they steal children, they especially like to remove young children, infants, due to the fact that they make a lot of money for the child to be adopted. I have heard, and read, and have spoken to so many women, where they take the baby from the hospital.
Where are the people that are supposed to be watching the actions of this agency? Where are the complaints they receive and who handles them? why does this continue???? The removal of a child is so dangerous, and causes life long effects. When they brain wash your child and lie and tell them they were abused. Why are the children in CT not protected? Why are they treated this way? Why does it seem as if they just hush hush a very huge problem. CT DCF causes so much debt to the state, the millions of dollars they use is wrong.
My husband was a victim of Massachusetts DCF from 1975-1980. He is writing a book about the torture and abuse he experience from age 5-10 until he was adopted. For the past 2 1/2 years we have been fighting for custody of his daughter. DCF claims that the “alleged abuse” he experienced as a child makes him an “at risk” placement for his daughter. What kind of BS is that?? They are making generation after generation of psychology detached children. I wish I knew where to start to change this corrupted system. I’m pretty sure that while we are supporting each other, we aren’t going to make any change unless we go for our governments jugular.
Ive done testing for dcf just to prove ive never done drugs but my ex is addicted to my medication im prescribed he was willing to trade my daughter for the medication i didnt want to get into trouble so i just recorded him asking for it i didnt want to risk getting my daughter just to have her taken away. DCF says they are supporting the claims they said they interviewed friends and family but the only interviewed my ex his mother father and his best friend whom dont like me to begin with. They say im guilty but i can still see my daughter they have no proof other then what my ex is saying and what he is making my daughter to say. I begged the case worker to look at his police and mental records but she said we are not investigating him. Even though he has shaken our daughter and there are records of the police coming to our house on several times. my ex father has my daughter right now and he has a child abuse record but does that matter no. I have no record ive submitted to drug tests and i have tried to work with dcf. My ex and his mother called and made 12 51as before the number thriteen came into play now they say i am a predator and neglectful. but they have no evidence. Just what my ex tells my daughter to say and its things my daugther would never say. I talked to my daughter the other day and cried asking me why see cant see me she said are you letting me go i said no baby never i told her i loved her and she said she knew i said i love her more then anything i couldnt talk to her long because i began to cry i miss her so much?
Since my husband lost the TPR case for his now 2 1/2 year old daughter, we’ve filed an appeal. The TPR Trial ended on December 10 2010, We didn’t get the ruling until mid February. An appeal needed to be filed within 30 days of the TPR judgment so we filed for an appeal in Mid December. At that point our public PRETENDER was off the case. We were notified in Mid January of our new Superior Court Appeal Attorney. Our previous lawyer told us that the purpose of the appeal was not to determine if the judge made the right or wrong decision, but to determine if the lower court judge broke any laws in the process of making his ruling. We then received a letter from him stating that he would read over the documents provided by the lower court and that there was no need to contact him; we wrote anyway. We picked through the lower courts decision and picked it apart with a fine tooth comb. We then pointed out of all of the discrepancies we found and the reasons why we felt that the lower court judge actually broke the law.
We hadn’t heard back from the appeal lawyer, so we had no idea of his reaction to the letter, until yesterday. We received a copy of his 15 page appeal in the mail which was accompanied by cover letter how helpful our letter was to him in preparing his brief. I have to say it was somewhat inspiring to feel for the first time in 2 1/2 years that someone is on our side. We aren’t getting our hopes up but this could be the loophole we were waiting for outside of the claws of DCF and their corrupted relationship with the family court lawyers and judges.We were told by the Public Pretender that an appeal could take up to a year. Its been three months since we were allowed to visit my stepdaughter and so the torment continues…
I have been waiting a very long time to tell my story and I hope by doing this I can find someone to help me. I feel like i’m trapped in a never ending nightmare that I can’t wake up from. My battle with cps started in april of 2002 because I was living with my mother in law who wanted my babygirl for herself. So she tried taking her and I fought cps without a lawyer at age 16 for a year and did everything I was asked, I got my babygirl back and thought it was all over… I was wrong! I left my daughter with my mother in law (stupid idea) when her son and myself moved to colorado to look for a place to live so we could start a new life. Three months later we had to hunt his mother down in colorado cuz she was hiding with my daughter. We got her back and she had bump’s on her bottom that his mother called “exzima” and told me to apply a perscription cream to them, so I was. On december 19th 2003 two day’s after her 2nd birthday, they were still there and I took her to the dr., turns out it was way more complicated then she said. Somehow in the time i leaft my babygirl with her and the it took to get her back (3 months) my daughter had contracted genital wart’s. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, I was in complete shock. The pediatrician called cps and they called me up to meet them at the police station around 5:00pm that evening, I complied cuz I did nothing wrong I figured I would be going home with my baby that night, instead they ripped her from my arms and threatened me with child abuse charges if I didn’t let her go. Anyway for the next year I did everything they asked me to do. The only thing I did wrong was miss two court dates but that was because I lived 41/2 hours away from were they took her at and they wouldn’t change venue to were I resided. They terminated my rights in january of 2005. I have not seen or heard from my daughter in six years she will be ten in december and last time I got to hug her and tell her I loved her she was 3 years old. I couldn’t appeal the courts decision because I was never notified of the 45 days to appeal until a year later when I requested copies of all the paper work so I could take it to a lawyer and get my baby back. The lawyer said from reading the paperwork there was no way they should have been able to do what they did but he could do nothing because the had a paper stating they mailed me a notice of the appeal period and there was no way to prove other wise since they had that letter. This haunts me everyday now, all I do is cry and try to figure out a way to see her or find her before she is an adult, I know she doesn’t remember me and I just hope when she find’s out she doesn’t hate or resent me for this. Can anyone help me???
I’m absolutely speechless. I’m so sorry that this has happened to you and your daughter. Did anyone investigate where the virus came from? Did they come to any conclusions about your baby having been sexually abused? Do you know that you could be a carrier of the Human Papalona virus without your knowledge? You could have unknowingly passed it to your newborn without even knowing it.Virus’ can stay dormant indefinitely in some people and run ramped in others such as elders or children with weakened immune systems. This same virus can also result in cancerous cervical cells if undetected and left untreated.
I can only imagine how much guilt and despair you must feel for your daughter. Regretfully, its not likely that any court will remove her from the home where she was adopted as they will state that she is stable and that moving her now would be emotionally detrimental to her. I know this because that’s the defense that DCF has used against my husband for the past 2 1/2 years since his paternity was proven.
The best thing I can think of to ease your heartbreak is something that my mother (who’s been a foster parent for 20 years) tells parents in your position. My mother says that “you may have lost the right to raise your child but you will always be her mommy and nobody can take that away from you”.She also says from her experience that children, even grown up children, need a sense of belonging. For this reason, children almost always go home to their biological parents. My mother also recommends that parents keep memory books,write letters to your daughter as if you were going to mail them. Date the letters and write in an age appropriate dialect.Also birthday and holiday cards are a nice way to stay internally connected to her. WHEN you see your daughter again, give her her memory book. She won’t be angry at you when she see’s the physical evidence of how much pain you carried in your heart do to losing her. She may not remember you but from what you’ve told, you had a bond with your baby. She carries that love for you in her heart as well and that relationship will be revived once you are reunited. Be patient, I believe she will come home to you.
my two little girls, ages 7 and 9, disappeared after a DCF staffer went to their school and removed them under a 96-hour hold. The reason given was that my wife and I had a minor argument two weeks prior while the children were absent on a camping trip. Just a single incident, not two, not three.
A prior DCF investigation ended 3 weeks ago when I received an official letter from the agency, saying allegations of abuse and neglect were “unsubstantiated.” The case was then forwarded to another case worker for follow-up services, like recreational programs for the children and so on. It was that case worker (Daniella Rosiclair) who went to the children school and removed them. At the last minute, she offered to “free” the children in return for me to sign a “Service Agreement” that would have violated my 4th Amendment and other Civil rights. As a free U.S. citizen with no criminal records who is not on parole or probation anywhere, I refused. That’s my right.
However, as I later reviewed the 96 hour rule on the agency website, I quickly realized that several rules and regulations were violated:
1 – Our family was not given the option to send the two girls to other relatives as is normally required.
2 – They didn’t tell us that one of us (my wife or I) could have left the home so that the children could come in.
3 – Although there are 3 minors in the house (ages 7, 9 and 16), only the two girls were removed, thus leaving behind the 16 year old boy. (Where’s the imminent danger to the children, when one of them was not removed?)
Please know that we were able to guide them in the right direction, and the girls are coming home!!! They contacted us yesterday, and were able to use the information and send the complaint of the rights, and laws that were broken. It is the ombudsman office that needs to be contacted. They overlook what ct dcf does. As long as you have been done wrong, they will help you. The number to the office is
Contacting the Ombudsman’s Office:
The office is open 8:00 am to 5:00 pm Monday – Friday
Telephone Number:
Local 860-550-6301 Toll-Free 1-866-637-4737 Fax 860-560-7086
Mailing Address:
505 Hudson St. Hartford, CT 06106
Contact them!!! Tell them if you have truly been a victim of CT DCF. Make your complaints. Tell them about the intimidation that they put you under, the stress, pressure, that they lie.
This is a portion of an email I sent last week to our Vermont Supreme Court Appeals Attorney;
I would just like to point out that all of DCF’s “professional witnesses” are all people who were paid by DCF to testify on their behalf; how is this even legal?. The only non biased witness we had was ___, who had no concerns what so ever about Jeff’s bond or ability to parent. I believe that his child was promised to the foster family at birth when CHINS was filed. Jeff had no rights to his daughter until paternity was proven so I don’t understand how their delay in identifying parentage can now be held against him. DCF makes comments like “Jeff made a threatening phone call”, yet there are no specifics given of what exactly was threatening about the calls. The truth is that DCF doesn’t like to be questioned or challenged in any way. I can tell you that there is nothing more threatening than taking a persons child from them and then making them dance in circles while they publicly intimidate, harass and demean them. We have sent 4 letters to the commissioners office in regards to these allegations (with specifics) but there has been no interest in anyone hearing our side of the story. If they’re going to make allegations about Jeff threatening them then the least they could do is to humor us with the facts.
This was the most meaningful of the Supreme Court Lawyers Responses:
“Dealing with DCF can be trying since they tend to hold all the cards and are used to getting their way”.
Hearing these words come from a Supreme Court Lawyer is disheartening to say the least. Clearly even they see what is going on and apparently turn a blind eye to the corruption. Why would the supreme court allow DCF to ” hold all of the cards”? Why would such a powerful court yield to the “Power” of DCF? The only thing I can imagine is that our Judicial system must be under the command of a higher archery of government instructing them to turn a blind eye. I’m personally disgusted beyond words and I can’t imagine that we have a chance in hell of winning this appeal.
Jeana~ When DCF enters into a family’s life, it is not something that is usually expected. When you are in a situation, being asked all sorts of questions, they are asking you to sign this and that. It is not until after that you realize everything you signed, they hold you to. Everything you said was sure to be twisted and turned to sound terrible. Most parent’s or care givers do not know the right’s that they have. Yes they seem to hold all the cards, all of your emotions, and your family. They are best known to work on their terms. They have a strong handed approach, they are intimidating, and it is wrong.
When going to court…. I look at it like this, the lawyers, the judges, and dcf all seem to work together and against “us” the people on the other side of the fence. If you are given a court appointed Lawyer, they work for the system, not you. The GAL the child receives, works for the system. So exactly, how are you able to win, or have you case heard clearly if they are all on the same team? It seems to be impossible. The State Of Connecticut “claims” they are working on changing the way they handle situations, and calls to the hotline. The best change they could make would be to make it even, and have people that are impartial to the case involved. Until then we keep doing what we are doing, and getting your story out there.
If you would like us to publish your story, go to the contact us section, write whatever you would like and it will be published. They cannot take away our freedom of speech. And they do visit our site. They are aware…. I ask that people continue to share… don’t give up… and support one another through the nightmare they make you live.
My husband and I have been dragged through hell because of this organization…we’ve been unsubstantiated for everything, took drug tests on our own accord and out of pocket, been to counseling, classes, everything…they have no concern whatsoever about our children, but for some reason, we’re still in court fighting not to lose custody. All of this stemmed from an argument we had. If you knew the things they put in our petition…and knew us personally….you would have a much different perception of them. We’re unsubstantiated, cleared of all charges, my children are still thriving…and now that the case may be dismissed, they’re saying my oldest – since missing 14 days of school (documented missed days due to illness by his doctor and he holds an A average in 5th grade) – now she wants to call truancy. This is the organization. THIS is what they do. They seperated my kids from me for 3 wks by FORCING me to agree to let them stay at my mother’s for a week…then it turned into 3….because my husband and I had an argument….There was NO NEED for that. My kids are STILL affected by it. I either agreed to letting them stay there, or they told me outright they would take custody. Or try. Now knowing better, I would’ve let them try…there never was, and isn’t now, a reason to lose my children…and DCF acknowledges that. But now it’s on to something new….Make sense of THAT.
I’ll give you some info about DCF and their truancy policies..Torrington DCF office had my 15 year old grandaughter in custody for six weeks..In that 6 weeks of having custody of her, she attended school for only TWO days…….hmmmmmm commissioner? response?
And she was in perfect health! So kindly explain MS. Katz what your policies are again when it comes to educating our children while under YOUR care…get a life
was put on child neglect registry in1997 and just found a month ago su, I ask for a hearing and pd my money for a copy of investagation report and dhs/cps let me know that they either did no investagation or they have lost the report.
I lost my three children six months ago. A cps worker came to my door due to a phone call they recieved. At the time I was covered with a rash from head to toe. The worker said she personally thought I was on meth. I went to several doctors and each time I was diagnosed differently. I finally got into a dermatologist. I was diagnosed with severe exzcema. I got worse and became very sick. They showed up at my door to take my children into custody.shortly after that I was rushed to the hospital because my gall bladder was close to bursting and I was rushed into surgery immediately. My blood pressure was 80 over 20. The worker also showed up with the police. She told me that there would be no reunificaation whatsoever. She also told me that I had a warrant and that I was going to jail. The police was going to cuff me so I asked to call my attorney. I left a message with the investigator that was dealing with another case my oldest son witness. They are learning that the phone calls were out of retaliation for my son was a key witness and was going to testify. The police decided not to arrest me. I called the warrant place and they said there was no warrant.there is a lot more I’m probably leaving out.
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ring my pregnancy in 2006- 2007, i was taking psychotropic medications including paxil which i didn’t feel right taking without a long term study done so i went off of it during my pregnancy. However, I was assured by both my presciber and OBGYN it was safe to continue taking klonopin and ritalin. I recently gave birth to another daughter on March 9th. my obgyn was the same one i had in 06-07 and i went off anti-depressant but remained on the other 2 like before. my OBGYN stated he wanted me off well-butrin which i agreed and said he wasn’t worried so much about the other 2 medications. the day i delivered my healthy baby girl dcf took her away for testing positive for those medications. i have filed for the records of both my OB and psychiatry for the timeline of my previous pregnancy which clearly document both doctors acknowledgement of the meds i was on. my ob for some reason decided to call dcf for same medications he approved of prior. I’ve been doing research on those medications and now discovered they aren’t as safe as i was told and realize that they could’ve caused both my babies harm. I’M READY TO FIGHT!
there’s sooooooooo much more nonsense with dcf being in my life for 8 yrs. now. The first time was my fault….my then 8 mnth old daughter wa sleeping in her crib. i had had it with her father verbal abuse all day that day and i called my mother to come get her because i was about to lose my mind on her dad. my mother came to get her but decided to get involved instead of removing her. police were called and so the story goes. there have been 8 investigations on me since then and out of the 8 only 2 were “valid” of investigation. they were always somekind of neglect charge. never abuse or anything but whatever their reasons were to invade my life and remove my daughters from their mother was 100% crap! the problem is…… once dcf is in your life they are there to stay because everyone and every establishment pertaining to your children like their doctor and school etc. have a red flag that dcf gives them to wave to cover their butts. there was one time when my 2nd daughter had turned a yr.old and her insurance was to be switched to another plan at one yr. but they never enrolled herin the new plan..it was a mess. both my girls had a cough and sore throat so i took them to their pediatrician. i had recently moved out of the house we shared with their father and was now a single mom. he wasn’t paying me CS at the time and i got a bill for the dr.’s visit. while i was there i mentioned my 1 yr. old may be behind on her boosters because of this insurance issue. they looked at her chart and said she was indeed behind. i then asked how much it would cost out of pocket until this insurance issue was fixed. they couldn’t give me a price on one because they were all given together… they never offered an alternative route to get my daughter up to date. in fact they said there was nothing they could do..yet the issue was still an issue. i said well bill me then and give her the boosters. they said they needed the money up front. all i could do was tell them id do my best to clear up this insurance issue asap. a week later dcf is at my door, medical neglect on my 1 yr. old. I WAS JUST THERE WITH THE GIRLS THE WEEK BEFORE!i had the bill still on my refrigerator. but the case stayed open for 45 days anyway. the other investigations are pretty much the same kind of bs. but this time they took my newborn..HELP!