I practically raised my grandson until my son was on his own and able to care for his son. The mother was and has been in prison for years. The maternal grandparents NEVER had any relationship in the 17 yrs with my grandson. Well, the dope addict mother was released on parole (08), and, comes to the state where we live and takes the son back to CT . My son and I searched everywhere only to find out the mother had him. My son had custody and CT DCF did nothing. About 2 weeks later the mother went back to prison and is still there. My son was killed a month later…Now, my grandson has gone from re-habs to Alternative schools since 08. DCF refused to give me my grandson & made it clear they had guardianship. Then in late 09,DCF notified me that they wanted to meet me and, do their “background” on me. I complied with everything!! My grandson was to come live with me and, I was excited. The maternal grandparents wanted nothing to do with him. Well, after MONTHS of waiting, emails, phone calls, visits etc., DCF put my grandson with the maternal grandparents. I was shocked, confused… amongst many other feelings as I HAD prepared for my grandson to come with me as I was led to believe by CT DCF… I told DCF it was a matter of time before they, the maternal grandparents, would disown him as they had all his life. They knew these Grandparents background but…. My grandson went to the grandparents home May 2011 and, was kicked out June of 2011. I never received a call from DCF. I found out through my grandson when he called to tell me. I emailed the DCF worker and told her how badly she failed my grandson and, that I told her this would happen, but, she cared nothing… I was sick to death over this as I wanted my grandchild. And, fought to get him. I have a beautiful home,nice schools,and, run 2 business’s & I LOVE him as I have all his life. DCF instead placed him in a “group home”. Not with ME. Now,2 nights ago he left the group home and, called me saying he wanted to come live with me. He was on the streets, no where to go, no money, no food. I had to tell him I could not come to get him as DCF had guardianship and, I could get into trouble. So, he called the “hotline” and, DCF put him in a place where he could “have a bed”. I emailed his DCF case worker and, told her I had, had enough of what they where doing to my grandson and, that I wanted him here with me. She, the DCF worker said that my grandson would go to DHMS an adult learning center where they would “transition” him into “independent” living….17 yrs old and, in an adult center??? Transitioning??? I have emailed her and told her my grandson HAS a family that LOVES him and, we want to have him with us. We want to get him into ROTC & college, give him the life he deserves. A chance for a great future NOT some “transition”.. But, again, I have fallen on deaf ears. This woman has only known him for a year+, I have had him his whole life yet she controls and, decides his future…A future he will never have because of this agency. He is only 17 and, needs his education, and his family. But, Ct DCF is doing what she wants. She cares nothing about him! IF She did she would place him with his family here but, No.
DCF needs to be stopped and held accountable for what they are doing. I fear my grandson will end up in the system or dead and, all because of DCF in CT. (I have even told her this but, she shows no concern at all. ) I am now contacting a childs advocate attorney in CT. DCF is worthless,heartless, and, has absolutely NO childs interests in mind!! They only care about their Government paycheck.
With all the children in DCF custody, children that are abused are returned to the abusers, children are cast off to different homes,institutions etc. The easy way out for DCF. They still go home at night to their warm beds and family without the slightest concern for the children unfortunately put in their care or where they place these children!!!
I would truly appreciate any information anyone out there may have concerning how we can STOP this agency from destroying childrens lives. I fear for my grandson’s life….
DCF is very incompetent. No matter how much you PROVE the family or institution THEY decide to put your child in is the WORST environment, DCF could care less. THEY CAUSE CHILDREN WHO MAY HAVE HAD A BRIGHT FUTURE TO FAIL!!! Then blame it on the child…
My Grandsons CT DCF worker has stated MANY times that if he makes a wrong choice then he has to pay the consequences….I have told her all children need guidance and, that no child should be able to make their own choices. But, again, She will not listen..She just places him where ever there is a bed..when he has a family/home waiting for him.
I would love to see statistics on how many children fell into the system, and/or died while under this corrupt, incompetent agency. And, if any of these DCF workers have been held accountable for their failures.
CT DCF is setting up children to become dislocated from their familys, uneducated, and, in the end major failures. And, DCF just continues to “rule” and, collect tax payers money. Children are falling through the system and either enter into crime or die. WHY is DCF NOT held RESPONSIBLE!!!! WE WOULD BE ARRESTED AND JAILED FOR CHILD ABUSE YET THEY GET AWAY WITH IT EVERYDAY!!!
DCF MUST BE STOPPED!!! THEY ARE DESTROYING OUR CHILDREN.

Please read the follow up story to this one here: New Britain DCF Worker Temple Retamar Where is the Money?

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