In 1973 Mike Krukiel’s parents were among the first to be divorced under Connecticut’s new no-fault divorce laws. Mike saw plenty of fights between his parents leading up to the divorce. His father had moved out of the house and had been given the typical “visitation schedule” of Saturday overnight into Sunday every other weekend that included himself and his sibling. He was 7 years old. Time with his father was reduced from daily time together to every other weekend.

Mike’s mother began a campaign of denigrating his father and projecting her feelings of hatred for him onto Mike. He was always grilled by her when returning from visits with his father. He remembers she would always make him wait by the door when his father came to pick the kids up for visitation. She would require Mike’s dad to knock on the door to their house, she’d come downstairs and start an argument often resulting in her denying the visitation in its entirety.

Telephone contact with his father between visits was never allowed. If his father did call to talk to the kids, Mike’s mother always intercepted the calls and questioned the children, start an argument or just plain hang up and not allow them to ever speak to him. 

For years, Mike’s mother convinced him that his father had started another family and had other children that he cared about more than he cared for Mike & his sister. In time, Mike would learn that his father had a vasectomy while still married to his mother (that she had authorized). There was no other family. There were no other children. The stories were all lies.

This was on blog talk radio, and very important for parents to listen to.

This is a very short version of what Mike had endured for many years. I have met this man, spoken with this man I would had never known what he had went through as a child and as an adult. He is a very kind man, very well spoken and he is helping so many by telling his story. I commend him for doing this, but the pain he has gone through, is going through and knowing that his own children may feel the same pain as himself.

Parental Alienation is REAL, VERY VERY REAL. Stop using children as bait, if there is a separation keep the children involved with both parents (as long as the parents are fit) the damage you can cause to a child, to the other parent is devastating. It does not go away EVER, children need both parents. You can be parents apart, by simply allowing the children to love the other parent and see the other parent. Far FAR to many times children are used as a “punishment” to the other parent. STOP, love your children and show them by letting them be with the other parent.  It can be the difference between life or death.

A follow up to A Grandmothers fight Ct Department of Children and Families, it is all about money

CT DCF Worker Temple Retemar working out of the New Britain office who took Guardianship of my grandson put him in one shelter after another. I BEGGED for my grandson, but it fell on deaf ears. I told her he would get into trouble being left on the streets and she, Temple Retemar, told me he has to make his own choices.  She NEVER did her job and certainly showed no care about children or family especially concerning my boy.  Well, My grandson, who is smart, a football player, a soccer player, etc is now sitting in Manson Juvenile Correctional Facility in CT. Temple Retemar NOW say’s if he has these “charges” dismissed that now and finally now she “believes that Tom is better off to be with me now”.

So why is it that after 2+ years Social Worker Temple Retamar of New Britain, CT feels my grandson is better with me.  Well no one can say for sure but it just so happens that my grandsons social security is ending in January of 2012 (my son, Tom’s father died in 08). This truth bending money seeking state employee kept my grandson from me, put him in Riverview, then Eagleton Ma., then to his maternal grandparents house. Now I have nothing wrong with the maternal Grandparents but there is the small fact that the maternal grandparents never knew him on a personal or caring / loving level like I know him.

In 2 weeks, Temple Retemar took Tom and  let him walk the streets. I questioned her when my grandson called me at 10pm saying he had no place to go.  Temple Retemar told him to call the hot line. (I live out of state) From there I never heard from him.  Talk about heartache and a family member’s greatest fear.  It took numerous calls and emails for this social worker to finally come clean about my grandson’s social security money.  When questioned about all of the money and where it went DCF Worker Temple Retamar claimed it had all been spent on Tom’s living expenses, but this baffles me since he never got the medical care he needed, never got the glasses he was required to have and all the clothes, shoes and amenities like his 32″ flat screen TV I bought for him.  She let him live from house to house. Retamar’s only explanation was that he ran away all the time.  Retamar has now said that his clothes are in bags in her office and, as for the TV, the “other” grandparents are keeping it for “safeguarding”.  It is a shame they couldn’t care enough to “safeguard” my grandson as well.

Tom’s court date is December 20th in New Britain, CT.  How I pray I could have a SLEW of DCF protesters there.  I am terrified, and, sickened.  He is such a great boy, he did not deserve this deceit, lies, corruption and neglect.  ALL DCF DID WAS SET HIM UP FOR A HUGE FALL.  They stole his money for 3 years and now that he will be turning 18 and his social security benefits will be stopping, so is their care for him.  They are ready to just wash their hands of this whole situation and move on to a new unsuspecting family to rip apart for monetary gains.

I could go on and on about what this state and the DCF has done to my family and I but to be honest, I am just depleted.  All I can say is thank god I kept all the emails and documentation from this corrupt social worker.  It proves how Tom was supposed to and wanted to come to me and, Retamar not only took advantage of me, but Tom as well.

People, if I could ask one favor of you:  Please pray for my Tom. He didn’t deserve this. I miss and love him.  Please, keep him in your thoughts and prayers. xo

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A Glastonbury couple accused of sexually abusing their adopted children made their first appearance at Manchester Superior Court Thursday.

On Wednesday, police arrested George Harasz, 48, and Douglas Wirth, 43, both of Williams Street East after two separate investigations into the allegations in February and August. The couple runs a dog breeding business in Glastonbury.

According to the state Department of Children and Families, the couple adopted nine children from three separate sibling groups between 2001 and 2008.

Wirth is out on bond. His partner George Harasz is expected to bond out by tonight.

In the meantime, friends and family insist the couple never did anything wrong.

The parents of Wirth did not speak after he was arraigned on sex assault charges, and neither did he after he was bonded out.

The brother and friends of Wirth’s partner, Harasz, did have something to say in connection with charges.

“They’re good guys. From everything I’ve seen over a decade of time, they’re good parents,” said Richard Harasz, the brother of Harasz.

Police cannot share a lot of information about the case because it involves minors, and sex assault allegations.

Richard Harasz though, believes he has an idea about why this all happened

“Because of money. I think it’s all because it’s money driven,” he said.

DCF Commissioner Joette Katz said the children have been removed from the home and that the agency was able to keep them together with their biological siblings.

Katz called the allegations against the couple “shocking and appalling.”

“I hope that going forward, we can make horrible incidents like this as rare as humanly possible,” Katz said in a press release.

Harasz is charged with:

• First-degree sexual assault
• Third-degree sexual assault
• Aggravated sexual assault
• Risk of injury to a minor (two counts)
• Cruelty to persons

Harasz is being held in lieu of $100,000 bond.

Wirth has been charged with:

• Third-degree sexual assault
• Risk of injury to a minor

Wirth is being held in lieu of $250,000 bond.

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A child from Africa was promised to a wonderful loving mother, sent money over and over and was supposed to have adopted this beautiful girl. But waiting at the airport for her arrival, she never showed. This woman was scammed, her heart was broken and played with. She will never forget you darling, you will always be carried with her in her heart. You will always be her daughter.

The state has launched an investigation into potential fraud by state workers involving a food stamp program to help victims of Tropical Storm Irene, Gov. Dannel P. Malloy said Sunday.

The probe centers on whether state workers falsified their own financial information in order to receive benefits stemming from Irene that were administered by the state Department of Social Services. The investigation involves only benefits received by state employees — not state workers acting on behalf of non-state employees.

Overall, more than 23,000 citizens applied for assistance under the food stamp program following the devastating August storm that knocked out power and barreled through waterfront homes in East Haven. Of those who applied and self-reported their income, about 800 were state employees. Some of those employees were eligible for the program because of their income, but others were not.

Numerous citizens were seeking assistance after the storm, and questions were raised immediately about whether everyone seeking those benefits was actually eligible.

“I will not tolerate fraud in any form, especially if the fraud is perpetrated against a public program by a public employee,” Malloy told reporters at the state Capitol.

Based on the rules concerning the disaster, the state received $12.4 million in federal benefits for citizens who were not already in the traditional food stamp program. If they suffered losses and had sufficiently low income, they would be eligible for food benefits.

“One of the fundamental responsibilities of government is to ensure proper and honest conduct by its own employees,” Malloy said. “Unfortunately, we are finding examples of conduct that, if fully substantiated, could result in dismissal or even prosecution.”

Malloy and his staff declined to say precisely how many state employees might be involved. Those employees have not yet been contacted.

Malloy’s chief legal counsel, Andrew McDonald, spoke to state and federal prosecutors Friday regarding the potential fraud. Since Malloy was at a funeral Saturday, he said he wanted to make the announcement in person on Sunday afternoon — a highly unusual time when the state Capitol is normally dark and populated only by the Capitol police.

The announcement was made Sunday because Malloy is traveling Monday to Beverly Hills for a two-day conference of the Democratic Governors Association at the sold-out Beverly Wilshire hotel. The political group’s annual meeting and Christmas Party at the upscale hotel includes an opening-night reception on Rodeo Drive and presentations on technology, energy and government efficiency at the hotel Tuesday. At least nine governors will be in attendance, including California’s Jerry Brown, Montana’s Brian Schweitzer, and Maryland’s Martin O’Malley.

Malloy said he decided to make the announcement himself, rather than delegating it to others in state government.

“If I didn’t do that … someone might say that I am not taking this seriously,” Malloy told reporters. “I have been taking this seriously since it came to my attention.”

In Connecticut, social services commissioner Roderick L. Bremby will continue a systematic audit to look for cases of fraud in the program, which covered disaster-related expenses from Aug. 27 to Sept. 25. That covers losses both during and after the storm.

“If state employees — or anyone else — defrauded the disaster funding program, the consequences will be immediate and severe,” Malloy said.

Like the original food stamp program, consumers received a debit card — but only food was an eligible purchase. The program is currently known as D-SNAP for Disaster Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program. It is funded by the federal government, but administered by the state. The storm-related losses could include temporary shelter costs, home repairs or the loss of income because a workplace was closed. Even if the loss was not related to food, the payment would be in food benefits.

The highest payment to any individual was $1,200, and the average was $684, officials said.

Malloy started off the unusual Sunday afternoon news conference by saying, “I can honestly say that if I look angry, I am.”

Lt. Gov. Nancy Wyman, who stood next to Malloy during the news conference, said, “If any of these state employees are indeed guilty, I am disappointed beyond words. This is a program for people in need and for their children. To abuse this program is not only a crime, it is nothing less than a moral outrage.”

Wyman noted that everyone is innocent until proven guilty, and Malloy noted that the investigation is ongoing. Still, there was enough evidence to officially announce the probe.

“I’m making this announcement because we believe that fraud has been perpetrated by a number of individuals,” Malloy said. “I didn’t call you here for any reason other than that.”

From The Hartford Courant

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The sweeping changes the Department of Children and Families has made in recent months are drawing the ire of the agency’s advisory panel, whose members–as parents, community providers, child lawyers and foster parents–are seeing first-hand the ramifications.

“You need to hear the crap that’s going on,” Janice Andersen, the deputy director of a Bridgeport-based group that deals with juvenile justice and other child welfare issues, told a top DCF official Monday.

Advisory panel chair Janice Anderson: ‘There’s a huge elephant in this room…’

It wasn’t quite the reaction Fernando Muniz was expecting. He came to the meeting with a three-page update on the positive impact of keeping more children with their families, how reducing congregate care for the youngest children has played out and how the number of children living out of state has declined.

“As we have sat around this table all these years, these are all things you asked for,” Muniz said in response to the harsh criticism. “Your points have been well taken.”

But members of the State Advisory Council say many of the changes are causing widespread concern.

“Foster families are in absolute panic that you are sending children into unsafe homes. Just because someone shares the same genes does mean their criminal history shouldn’t matter,” said Laurie Landry, a therapist in Wethersfield. “What are you thinking?”

Connecticut previously had one of the lowest rates in the country of placing abused and neglected children with family members when it was determined they couldn’t stay at home. Because of this, the department began waiving what Muniz describes as “the most restrictive guidelines in the country.” That often includes waiving what the agency calls a non-relevant criminal record.

As a result of the changes, the number of children placed with family members increased from one in seven at the end of last year to one in five in September.

The group also said the agency’s move to decrease the number of abused and neglected children with specialized needs being sent to live out-of-state–from 364 children in January to 258 in October–also is having some harmful affects.

“They may be coming home, but we aren’t prepared for them,” said Betsy Palmer-Ehrenfeld, who coordinates a network of foster homes for special-needs children across the state. She says the money is not available to ensure appropriate treatment for children with severe behavioral issues such as cutting themselves or exhibiting problem sexual behavior.

Muniz said many of those that were living out-of-state aged out of care, some went home and others were placed in facilities in the state. He said about half of the applications to place a child out-of-state have been rejected since the start of the year.

Anderson, who is the chairwoman of the advisory panel, also complained that parents continue to be treated poorly by DCF, despite the agency’s ending surprise visits in response to allegations of abuse and neglect.

“There’s a huge elephant in this room we have to talk about,” she said. “You are not really trying to get parents and families involved.” She cited advice the department is giving school districts in the Bridgeport region on how to handle a situation when they suspect a child is not getting the health care they require. “They are being told to report the parent for medical neglect. You should be helping them find the help.”

Muniz responded that there would undoubtedly be hiccups in implementing such sweeping changes, but reminded the group that it is the agency’s number one job to make sure children are safe.

“DCF is not intended to be a poverty help program,” he said of the new approach of differentiating accusations of neglect from children living in poverty. He said the approach is to direct these cases to the appropriate state agency for services– most often, the Department of Social Services.

That upset Andersen.

“You are going to send them to 2-1-1 and DSS? Give me a break they can’t even pick up the phone. That makes no sense,” she said

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This is what your agency has done to THOUSANDS of innocent families!!!

If any of you are parents, I sure hope you are able to face them and be honest that you wreck homes, and that children are a commodity.

So can you take it all away? You sure the hell can, the void the hurt you have inflicted.

BUT can you change your disgusting disguise of SATAN?  YES YOU CAN!

What if it were your child/children? would you hurt without them? Would you feel empty?

It would be nice if the heart and souls we were born with, and start doing the right thing, put yourself in the CHILDREN’S SHOES, or do they not fit?

Try on the parent’s shoes, the grandparent’s, aunt’s,uncle’s the family.

TRY to be humane, try saving lives instead of ruining them.

Although The Connecticut Department Of  Children and Families has this” fa sod” that you are better, and have all this power, you are human. You are above NO ONE, you are UNDER your MAKER and that is who you will have to answer to. Commissioner Katz, when you took over I believed in you, I believed that YOU would bring change. I am sorry I believed in you, the only change you brought was more HURT, you allow and sign off on fictitious,lies that are brought to you.

Commissioner   KATZ……. WHY? Do you hate children that much? Is your heart that empty that cold? You speak about change… but that is all, you know actions speak louder than words. ratings should be going down, they are going up. The incentive to be a foster parent! That makes so many sick, with the condition this state is in the lack of jobs!!!! You are just opening the door for more TROUBLE. People are not going into being a foster parent for the right reason, it is money and a survival. You allow these doors to open, for all sorts of abuse. There is MORE abuse that happens to children while in the so called ” CARE”. I hardly call what actions this agency Connecticut Department of Children and Families “CARING”.

Joette Katz, you have the ability to STOP what is going on. To STOP REMOVING INNOCENT CHILDREN. why don’t you? Do you sleep well at night KNOWING the pain you have caused? It is the money, the cost of having a family in a state that is so corrupt, heartless, greedy and all the pretty things you put up about “changing the way things are done” I have only seen more tragedy’s. The suffering to the children, parent’s and it to be ok, like “who cares there are millions of families, they will get over it”. That is the image YOUR agency has. The Federal government has been involved for over two decades, they haven;t left because once again your agency FAILED to do what was agreed upon, more foster homes, you didn’t. So with limited paces to put  A LOT of innocent children that had NO NEED TO BE REMOVED. The answer…. ADOPTION!!! Rushing through the process, the laws, anything to get to the TERMINATION OF PARENTAL RIGHTS.

I feel sorry for you, I truly do. I feel sorry for all of the social workers,investigators etc. Why? Because there is no care, no compassion, and I wish for all of the innocent children and their families that one day you will wake up and realize what you have done. It is no secret that thus agency is on VERY thin ice. But I pray that you will wake up and be a leader, and stop following the ways… and the money trail. You cannot be a truly happy person with the things you have allowed. But it is NEVER to late to change your ways. And really read what is in front of you, ask questions before you sign a paper that will destroy a family. I would really like to see change, instead of a constant flow of complaints. Your “HOT SPOT” departments are WATERBURRY, TORRINGTON, MERIDEN, and many more but those are three, of MANY.

Joette Katz and all of the “social workers” from the Connecticut Department of Children and Families.

It is much cheaper and FAR less devastating if you would help not hurt, a few examples. Instead of removing say due to a furnace being broken have it fixed, if there is a family that had power shit off HELP by getting it back on. So many simple things, clearly you know this state is broke, why keep putting us in more debt by ripping good families apart? Problem solve, it’s so easy to just remove though. NOT. PLEASE stop hurting and HELP. If you only knew how much damage you have played a part in, the type of damage that CAN NEVER be repaired, unlike a furnace, a refrigerator, etc. Stop the hunt for children for money. To your department you can put a price tag on a child, that is devastating, disgusting , and inhumane. You have the power to make a difference, this a a cry from thousands of people in this state. Story’s continue to come everyday, and it is quite odd how they are all VERY similar.

Parent’s are getting stronger, people are getting stronger. The time for change is now, it will happen you as a woman as a mother, should want this change and act upon it.

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October 21, 2010 at 8:37 pm   For starters never believe ANYTHING DCF tells you. Jennifer Birden who works out of the Torrington office of the Department of children and families in Connecticut. This woman, Jennifer Birden is a liar, as are most D.C.F workers, but she Jennifer Birden even under oath while  on the stand lied! She made a promise, or an “ultimatum” for my son to be returned home where he belongs. The “deal”to get MY child back  was to leave his father. The question is did it happen? Absolutely not!!! She denies even saying this. She meaning Jennifer Birden from the Torrington D.C.F office will twist things around lie to your face and in the a court of law, and get away with it!!!  A few examples   1)she said she referred me to Family Catholic Services that is a lie, Jennifer Birden  from D.C.F from Torrington did,not I took myself there. 2) She also said she wanted me to attend AA, this is again another lie, it was only my childs father that was suppose to attend.3) She also claims that my 5 year old (at the time) told her that he needs to talk to her about some things, and that he said he was afraid of guns. My husband now thought he would be honest with her and let her know he does have guns and they are kept in the bedroom closet in a safe. Well she twisted the story around (once again) and said my son is afraid of guns, when in fact my son never knew about the guns. In the very beginning of my case Jennifer Birden was” new”.  I was told by DCF if I leave the house and go to the fathers sister’s house, in which she and her husband are nurses, that they would not remove my son. The next day they came and took him. Jennifer Birden called me from her home crying and saying” she does’nt thing she can stay with her job”. I asked “why”, and she said because how DCF lied to me, and came and took my son when the Department of Children and Families in Torrington, said they would’nt. She even cried on the stand during the first trial. Well Betty Paul gave her hell for that, I’m sure and all of a sudden she became this sweet young lady I met earlier to one of the brain washed social worker. When I did have my son home, they sent Social Worker from Torrington D.C.F Sandy Russco over for a home visit, and she” claimed” I was trying to smuggle my son. My son and I where having pillow fights and not once did I ever put a pillow over his face. The strange part of this is if I was smuggling my son, then why is it she never called the police? Or remove my son? Or call her office!!!! I was not aware of this until weeks late .I have done plenty of research on The Department Of Children And Families in Connecticut, and found out a lot of disturbing information how many people have very similar story’s they “lease” our children out and after a year try and make a case to terminate rights, and then there open for adoption. Did you know they get 250,000.00 per child and this is why they keep a  case open so long. When is there going to be an end to all of the pain this “AGENCY” continues to cause? Why do they claim to want to help or to be here just to help….. with all of the story’s it is far from that. They shop for children, they make money off of our children, our flesh and blood,they wreck lives. Why WHY is this allowed??? How can a human being do what they do to people, and children. it is nice to know that they do not care for you or your child, it is the money!!!! Governor Malloy please help!! You can call the ombudsman office but they work for the commissioner KATZ, and the Attorney General looks over and protects them. The time will come, so many are coming together, enough is enough.

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This is a video that was submitted to us about parental alienation, a huge problem that effects men and women alike and most sadly the children.  I myself am affected by this problem but please just watch the video and the writeup of the scenario leading up to this problem will be added at a later time hopefully tonight.

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